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Originally Posted by quasi
I've held a lot of resentment for things that my sister did in her past to the point where I never could get over it. Even when she bettered herself I still held on to that anger and I never told her that I was proud of how far she's come. I hardly spoke to her over the last 6 years, I seen her once in the last 4 years mostly due to distance. Even when she would reach out to me I'd ignore her phone calls.
Today I lost my little sister, my only sibling and I'd give anything if I could have one minute to tell her I'm sorry for not letting it go, I'm proud of her for how far she's come and I love her.
Don't hold grudges, hug the ones you love and tell them you forgive them. If you wronged someone tell them your sorry. It's just not worth holding on to hate, it just eats you up.
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I’m really sorry to hear about your loss. May she rest in peace and look after you and your family. RS here for you brother, strong and proud.
I hate to hijack this thread but I just came back from a Celebration of Life…
My cousin passed away at the age of 57. I’ve known him for decades. In the time I knew him, I saw the good and bad traits of him and so did the rest of the family. The thing is I never let his bad qualities prevent me from speaking with him. The downside is I never really spoke to him much in the last 4 years. Last time I saw him was at his mother’s (my aunt’s) funeral. My mom would always speak with him and other family members would ask her why bother with him?
My mom would simply reply with ‘regardless of how much you differ from people, always speak with them. Keep them close because if you dwell on only the bad, you’ll forget the good until it’s too late’.
And that’s what exactly happened. It’s only when the reality of his death set in that family members started remembering the good qualities about him and forgot about the bad ones. It’s sad that it had to come this late but hopefully they learn that as humans we are all capable of good and bad traits but if you get together, crack open a beer or three, we’re all really the same.
After his eldest sister gave a speech and told everyone that dinner was served (we were at a banquet hall), my cousin’s widow immediately ran over to my mom and hugged her with tears and wouldn’t let go. Keep in mind there were at least 50 people in the hall. She was sitting way up front and we were far in the back. She ran across the whole floor to reach my mom for that embrace. Meanwhile, two tables over, people were laughing and eating. It was surreal.
He may have been derided by some in life but some people loved him through that life. Forgive those that wrong you and remove the burden from your mind. Your life will flow a lot smoother without the crushing weight of anger which can manifest in guilt and ultimately regret.
When the night was over, I realized that my mother is one of, if not THE last pillar holding this family together. When I showed up with her and my dad, she went over to every single table and spoke to every single person there. Even people she didn’t know.
Why can’t all humans be like this? Including me?
Anyway, sorry for the long winded post. I am neither drunk nor high. I just feel my heart beating and it feels good.