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Originally Posted by fliptuner
Not sure if you have young kids but I'm really up in the air in how I'm going to break the news to my 3yo. It's a lot easier to explain when you're religious but we aren't really.
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Very sorry for your loss flip. I'll offer a similar experience. I lost my grandfather in October. He was 91 and the last couple of years he steadily declined so it wasn't a shock when he passed. I told my 3 year old daughter that he had transitioned to the next chapter in a different place and that we keep those close to us alive by remembering them. We also had to put one of our dogs down last Thursday and we had the same conversation. She even remembered the things I said a month or so prior. IMO, at that age they are more curious than anything and don't really comprehend "loss", so to speak. That was my experience anyway. I'm not religious at all so I was reluctant to offer the "Heaven" theory to her. She seemed to digest it well so I figure I did ok.
quasi: I'm glad you are able to travel to see your family and gain some closure with your sister. You are right that each day gets better and offers some new perspective. It sucks that these things happen at this time of year when this is the time that family comes together. For anyone that has suffered a loss; hold your family close, have no regrets, remember them, and think of them often. I like to think of it as the next chapter rather than closure as we never really close the book on them, the dynamic of the relationship just changes.