Damn that's an impressive pic!
The more I think about this and from reading your responses, the more I'm realizing it is my training that is lacking.
This is so sad, I agree I might have to treat myself as one....
I have to respectfully both agree and disagree. The numbers from that calculator are very similar to the numbers I used when I dieted/bulked (except I had used a 'sedentary' setting because I have an office job). That meant ~2000 maintenance and 1400-1500 calories when dieting. This takes into account working out 3x a week. The thing is, this worked for me. I have zero problems dieting and losing ~1 lb / week (because of discipline, not because of genetics

). I have progress pictures and everything and essentially have it down to a science. I had dieted on 1800-2000 calories in my initial stages and quickly found I was not losing weight. That was how I ended up with the magic 1400-1500 number.
I realize your 3000 calorie number is also just an estimate and one must adjust for how one's body responds. I guess perhaps I'm just wary of eating too much because I put on fat very easily. When I bulked from 140lbs to 153lbs both times, I was eating anywhere from 2200 to 2600 calories. Over 8 months my weight would creep up to to 153lbs and it would be all fat.
The solution can't be that I'm not eating enough. Starting to realize I can't "get away" with eating too much because my training is extremely lacking.
Agreed. I used ratios to keep things simple but yes when I tracked the breakdowns (myfitnesspal) and could tell you exactly what I ate.
100% agree and I'm realizing it's likely my training.
Haha, I am pretty much like you. I hovered at 160-165lbs ~23-25% body fat since university. When I look at past pictures (both topless as well as when out with friends), compared to my current ~12% body fat self, it's a HUGE difference and I honestly never want to go back there LOL. My face was puffy and round, moderate stomach, big thighs.
I'm male (obviously) but my fat distribution is very much like that of a female's (i.e. lower body is where fat tends to get stored). This really sucks as when I'm at 17%+ bf the proportions start looking off and my pants immediately feel tighter around the thigh area.
I am happy to bulk to 180lbs but as you said, only if the training is right and I'm putting on at least 50% fat/muscle. Currently, it's 100% fat so continuing to 180 would be a disaster unless I fix the problem, which thanks to you guys, it sounds like I just need to grow some balls and do higher volume.
My ideal physique is 160 lbs at 10% body fat. For a 5'7 guy, that's impressive and huge for my goals. This is essentially what it would look like for me:
https://www.instagram.com/p/7KOYeEGR...by=daniel.lvgt
I've seen this dude in person a couple years back when he was a personal trainer at the gym I went to and in person, it was a very impressive physique and nobody (in person) would say he looked small.
That's my goal and I'm motivated as ****.
Skinny, your 195 lbs physique with visible abs is freakin impressive. On paper, people might say "anything under 200lbs is not huge" but in person, DAMN that's huge.