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Originally Posted by Mr.HappySilp
I know right. When I try asking a girl out just for coffee or dinner they go into defensive mode right away saying they just want to be friends. Then later most girls complain they can't get a bf. Well maybe if you are open mind then you might find a bf. Most girls these days have a lot of requirements that you as a guy have to met before they will even consider. It sucks. I basically stop trying to find a gf or even consider asking a girl out. Now I just hand out with friends and hearing girls complain I snap at them saying coz they didn't even give anyone a chance lol.
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Shit sounded like me two years ago. I remember telling one of my female friends that she should give 'nice' guys a chance.
Anyways, girls don't have lots of requirements. They'll say that you have to have a house, money, and a nice car. I've seen guys with shitboxes dating hot girls. I've seen rich guys unable to find a girl due to their lack of personality.
I know I've come a long way myself and I'm not here to preach. I used to think about how to pickup girls, use 'game' on girls, etc. Rather, the epiphany that I had was to learn, grow, and accept myself. I focused on my career, my goals and pursued them. I went back to the gym since my accident and feel stronger than before. I'm doing things I'm passionate and interested in and I don't let noise (aka friends who think differently eg. I like value investing they like crypto) bother me. ALL THIS TRANSLATES TO SELF-CONFIDENCE AND HAPPINESS.
People gravitate to others who are happy, enjoying themselves and self-confident. No one wants to be your friend if you snap at them about what they do. Just nod, say "sure" and do whatever the hell you want.
And for those who say "my hobbies are in things that no one finds interesting..." That's bullshit. Your passion is what's interesting. Embrace the passion and let it flow. If you like anime own it. There's a million other girls that like anime too.
Work your way to become proud of who the fuck you are man. Girls will come.