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Originally Posted by jinxcrusader
I've been dating this girl for 2 months. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed by this new relationship already.
I come from a working class family. I learned few weeks after our first date that our economic backgrounds are quite different. I make ends meet with my salary - but she makes quite a bit more than I do, with the opportunity to double my income over the next few years. Income aside, her family is quite wealthy. It makes me feel embarrassed and overwhelmed because I can't keep up with her lifestyle. She doesn't exactly live frugally but she definitely does not flaunt herself.
We went out for lunch the other day at a restaurant she really likes. I've never been there. The bill came out to $130 before tips -- at a Chinese restaurant! We didn't even order drinks. Never in my entire life have I spent over 40 bucks for a lunch meal. She paid it but she said this amount is common when she hangs out with her friends for a meal. It was a real eye opener for me to realize the difference in the way we spend our money. I know I should check my ego at the door but I don't know how I could keep up with her lifestyle. I could probably and will have to stomach the fact that she is the breadwinner in the relationship but it it isn't easy.
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I was sorta in your position a few months back, i make enough where i don't have to be frugal but i was seeing this girl and the differences between our family's was hard since her parents are phd graduates and they make substantially more, while my parents are self-made village folks with china gr 2/3 education (not to seem ungrateful, i'm proud to have them).
Her parents had wanted to meet me so we set everything up and had dinner. It was a whole new kind of awkward since they questioned me on everything, i've had to meet parents before but this was next level shit... when all the questions were done and i offered to pay for dinner, they refused it which was okay, but the way they refused it was kinda offending because they belittled me and my family... i don't understand why since i'm currently pursuing a bachelors with a major in finance, I showed up for dinner well dressed and in the bimmer also since it was the first time meeting them and i wanted to give them a good impression, i even brought out the gold AX...
The Girl figured i was offended/hurt so we went for dessert and some shopping to fix my bruised ego, even let me pay.
Maybe they wanted to see a Ferrari
