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Originally Posted by Mr.HappySilp
Been seeing this women for 2 weeks now. Everything is great and we connect really well. Maybe coz she is older (3 years older) so she see things differently than girls of my age or younger. Her personality is really nice, easy to talk to and connect to. She also have her career set straight.
Last night at my place we really felt a great connection and I could tell she wanted to move forward in terms on physical connection.
Now here is the deal she have a son that's 5 years old. From her story was that she dated this guy back then and I guess no protection was use and they have a baby. Guy bail out on her and went with another woman. So they never officially marry or anything like that.
I mean my family knew about her (weird we went to see the circus with her son ended up eating at a restaurant where my cousin's wife works and so my parents knows about it). They aren't too happy with me dating someone who have kids. They already express it that they don't like it but they feel is my life so is up to me to decide what's best and I will have to bare the responsibility. They respect my decsion.
Have anyone here dated anyone with kids? From the way she teach her kid it seems she a pretty laid back parent but does have rules in place.
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depending on the kid; it has it's pros and cons. I honestly would keep the kid out of the picture.
1) spend time to see if you have connection first.
2) you have to be understanding as a dude (if she bails due to kid responsibilities, not having a baby sister, you gotta be understanding)
3) Kid > you, get used to it.
4) until you defined the relationship where you two are committed for a solid 3 months, then you intro yourself to the kids life.
last thing you want is to fuck up the kid's life. All in all, DTR, Define the Relationship, and you also gotta define who you are in front of the kid. Then you gotta deal with the real dad.. etc.