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Originally Posted by 6793026
sorry to thread jack; happy for you being able to work thru
my x gf now and I collapsed because she wanted a wedding and for me to pay for it. Love her lots but I ain't able to fulfill her with her ideal wedding. Wedding is a partnership and 2 people will require to contribute, sad to say if the gf ain't goign to contribute / help out / see the wedding as something we both need to chip in, it's best to just part ways.
Lastly, I'm not going to sell my apartment nor goign to ask my family for money to get married; just not economical and not the way to go. Remember, we should all live within our means (paying for wedding is a big one)
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Originally Posted by Traum
No offence to your ex, but me thinks her request / behaviour is indicative of how she would likely have continued to behave had the 2 of you gotten married -- instead of sharing the costs / burdens / responsibilities, she is going to expect you to step up and bear it all.
So IMO, you're better off bailing / breaking it off -- I'd even go as far as saying that you've dodge a bullet, really. At the same time, I hope the girl had learned something from the relationship as well.
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Is going to be a small wedding. Actually two weddings to be exact. One wedding in Van and one back in China. Both will be small just relatives. I am paying for the one in Van and she is paying for the one in China since a lot of her relatives didn't/can't get a Visa to come. We are planing to have small ceremony in the wedding and have marriage commissioner come over to my place with relatives to witness the marriage, have some cake, fruits and snack and do the whole tea thing (have to offer tea the my elderly relatives). Then off we go to have dim sum. Afterwards we are going to take pics since my sister in law is a photographer the pic should be decent. Then have dinner around 30 people. She is planning to use one of her party dress she had before so we didn't get a wedding gowns or rent it. I am just going to use my suit which is good enough.
Going back to China in Sept again it will be relatives only that's where we are going to hire a professional photogrpaher since is much much cheaper in China and the quality is almost the same or cheaper but they have more styles.
Wedding is suppose to be two people coming together and celebrate but now it seems the couple that's suppose to be happy and exicted are stress just with the planning and financial burden. Not to mention the bride and groom aren't even having fun on their big day but rather they are more worry about the guest, how did the wedding turn out and barely had time to eat or relax. The whole day is just stress stress stress. Seen it happen with so many friend's wedding and my sister. I rather not have to deal with it at all.
She actually wanted a more simple wedding lol like just have a big party at the party room in either one of our apartments and just order some pizza, fried rice, noodles etc and get it over with. But my parents wanted something more traditional. I think she is more of a cheapstake than I am lol.