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Originally Posted by 6793026
I date girls who aren't getting too much attention and they fall super hard for you.
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Thing with this tho, is that those type of girls typically lack self confidence or simply don't love themselves. Case in point with my now ex.
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Originally Posted by 6793026
yup, my last gf was the same, it was easy at first 10 months, but when it came down to the critical events or some bigger decisions, it didn't work. I now realized the day to day stuff is importance, but one still need to know how to work thru the mission critical stuff.
Love my X to pieces, but I wasn't "giving enough" to her, I didn't buy her the nice things, I wasn't able to provide by giving her a big massive wedding. I left in peace so she can go chase after a guy who can give her the monetary stuff (which translates to "love"); guess it won't be me.
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I definitively realized today what my ex meant by it wasn't just her parents driving us apart. It was so many things. I just didn't see it because of the above reason, I had the "upper hand" in the relationship. She treated me so good and was so patient. But I still managed to fuck it up. I guess I didn't think she would actually leave, so I took her for granted. I was so fucking selfish. Since I knew she was a little immature and didn't think rationally, I chalked everything up to her just being emotional. Instead of apologizing for whatever or telling her that I miss her and love her, I would try to explain to her why her actions are irrational. Essentially justify how valid I was / didn't need to rectify.
If I could recognize I was doing that, maybe I wouldn't have lost her. Maybe she would have kept trying harder. I really fucked up and I've accepted that there's no way for me to change it.