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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS
Thing with this tho, is that those type of girls typically lack self confidence or simply don't love themselves. Case in point with my now ex.
I definitively realized today what my ex meant by it wasn't just her parents driving us apart. It was so many things. I just didn't see it because of the above reason, I had the "upper hand" in the relationship. She treated me so good and was so patient. But I still managed to fuck it up. I guess I didn't think she would actually leave, so I took her for granted. I was so fucking selfish. Since I knew she was a little immature and didn't think rationally, I chalked everything up to her just being emotional. Instead of apologizing for whatever or telling her that I miss her and love her, I would try to explain to her why her actions are irrational. Essentially justify how valid I was / didn't need to rectify.
If I could recognize I was doing that, maybe I wouldn't have lost her. Maybe she would have kept trying harder. I really fucked up and I've accepted that there's no way for me to change it.
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What I learn is the little things do add up a lot. 6 month into marriage life and I can tell you the little things you do really adds up (IE picking wife up after she works out at a nearby rec center at night, taking the garbage out, remember what she needs to buy at the grocery store, helping around the house, hugging her while sleeping etc etc) all these things might seem small and a lot of times people just brush them off. However, living together means working together to keep the family and make everyone happy. Also making mature decisions and putting her first/think about her feelings first before mine really helps the relationships a lot. Most girls would rather you care about them/put them first than if you just keep buying expensive presents.