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Old 02-11-2020, 07:36 AM   #24673
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Originally Posted by AstulzerRZD View Post
I think for me, I'd approach it with a non judgemental tone and be generous with my assumptions towards the other guy.

Maybe I'd take this as an opportunity to better understand my sister and her perspectives on friends/partners. Mention that you're going through a tough time and how she'd deal with someone who "has good intentions but sometimes does 'x bad behaviour" or someone "who you've seen be an amazing partner but also does 'y bad behaviour' to their friends sometimes.

Maybe you'll find that this matters to her, maybe you'll find that it doesn't.
I did exactly that and told my sister that if she really wanted to go out with him that she had my approval.

I found out last night that she called it off.
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