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Originally Posted by Xu.Vi
This post provided me with a lot of perspective on Hehe's understanding of this world, the people around him, and himself. I've dropped all expectations of him using the right side of his brain and now I can empathize how frustrating it is for him to interpret the replies as a personal attack towards his identity. I think his posts deserve respect...maybe not in the context that they're correct and a reflection of the real world, but to constantly feel invalidated over a forum despite it working throughout his life. We all grow up in different environments and it can be said that our personalities are what helped us survive till this very day. In fact, it's very commendable that Hehe continues to express his thoughts. I hope one day he has the opportunity to experience and connect with someone outside of his perfectionist social social.
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You know we actually don't think much differently.
We are all quite progressive in term of making our society a better place.
The only difference is the approach.
After working for so many years, having to teach my own kids and be responsible for many things in life, one thing that I learned is get the fact straight and don't BS.
When I was starting my startup, on every investor meeting, I'd create the fanciest and most inspiring pitch I can come up with, because that's what I was taught. The pitch has to be attractive.
That's TRUE, but they forgot to tell you the second half: be able to substantiate your claims. I've investments that failed in the last minute because some stupid stuff couldn't be substantiated and they just disregard everything as it possessed risk.
Thus, I learned to take small steps. Always do something that I know for sure and cut the BS. This way, by the time I actually get investors to do their DD, I'd have little problem of going through it.
Now, back to our discussion on several topics here. Look at underscore's post about EV being more polluting that ICE. That's a myth if not downright bullshit. And yet that post got a "like" by Akinari. If he really believed in that piece of information and someone else asks him about getting an EV, he'd say "oh, I read somewhere that EVs are more polluting than ICE".
All that can be prevented if underscore takes some responsibility on his posts and actually FACTCHECK his claims... not just some psudo-science source like TopGear, but actual scientific papers. Google is very powerful... the Scholar version isn't too bad and you can find many facts or debunk some myth by a quick 2min check.
But what underscore going to feel when Akinari comes to him saying, "hey, I read your post, I told my F&F that and they said it's BS"? He would probably just say... "oops"... and that's it.
That's the problem. People don't take serious about stuff they say, causes they support or even things in life in general.
I did similar things with my son. He'd ask me some kids stuff that I didn't know and I used to just bs my way out of it. Then one day I heard during a playdate that he was arguing something with his friend about some shit I said. From that moment on... I decided that if I didn't know anything he asked me, I'd tell him I don't know and we'd google it up.
What I said mattered to him. He takes it as the truth. What I decided on the business mattered to my work. It could mean whether we make or lose 6-figures on a single decision. And once I learned that... I hate just about anything that can't be substantiated with fact.
Don't get me wrong. We could simply have a different opinion on something and we'd just agree to disagree. But there are things that simply can't be reasoned... like BLM take ALM as their opposition?! WTF is that? So BLM but other lives don't? If we want to bring focus on black lives, why can't we focus on ALL minorities? That's why I question it. And it's not particular to that... I question everything I encounter in life, because I need to be responsible not only to myself, but to people around me... however close they are to me or just some random guy on RS.
Again, going back to something I've said before:
Too often, we care more about forming our narratives than what's true. Take underscore's post as example. He wanted to create a narrative that I drive an EV doesn't mean better for the environment. I don't blame him for believing in that. He probably had read it from some other dude who didn't factcheck. But before you post that information out, for the sake of the community, especially when RS is a car-oriented community, he should have fact-checked before posting. Question a bit on that statement... see what the opposition is saying and their evidences... then form your own conclusion.
Too often, we use quotes as a source of power. Like if I quote something... then the responsibility is all on that quoted material. That's like saying "with all due respect" and say whatever shit... that's not how it works.
I'd rather have 100 small but achievable steps... than 1 great grand vision that might never be achieved.