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Old 01-23-2021, 11:09 PM   #18
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Originally Posted by Gerbs View Post
When do you guys know when you're ready for kids?
320icar already gave you a terrific reply. I am just going to add that in some cases, it is the female partner approaching that big THIRTY-FIVE psychological / biological magic number that pushes a couple to make a decision on whether they'd still want kids or not.

I have 35+ yrs old friends have been trying, and trying to conceive, be it naturally or through IVF, but it just wouldn't happen. It makes for a sad and difficult situaiton. And then I haven't even start talking about the elevated pregnancy risks -- I really don't want to go there.

I know I would have been a terrible and totally unqualified dad had the baby come in my early 30's. I was too hot tempered and inpatient back then. But the question that I could never answer is -- did I become a dad because I have settled down and matured? or did I settle down and got more mature because I became a dad?
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