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Originally Posted by Ulic Qel-Droma
this topic could have its own thread. lol
what about you guys who's family has one partner who's a stay at home or makes significantly less. Like the bread winner makes 2-10x more?
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When I got married I was making about 2x what my wife makes (though she has a sweet ass federal gov't pension) and today I'm about 3x and the gap will keep growing b/c of our respective fields (doesn't even count all my stock options I've accrued either).
I'm probably fortunate in that my wife is the frugal one and I grew up in a household where my parents pooled their money (and my mom usually made more than my dad) so pooling our money was never even a question for me. Far as I'm concerned we're a team so everything is shared and income is only one contribution to our marriage. She bears way more of the burden of raising our daughter and taking care of household things than I do while my job is much more demanding than hers. She doesn't attach a dollar value to all the extra work she does so I shouldn't attach a dollar value to my salary.
I get a kick out of reading Reddit's r/relationships, r/AITA, and r/relationships_advice - there are some people with extremely warped views on what constitutes a healthy and fair relationship. We're not perfect (far from it) but some people there are messed up. Take a read of that and you'll feel good about whatever decisions you make about how to handle money in a relationship.
