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Originally Posted by Special K
Think about how much you saved in childcare by your wife not working. Taking care of 3 kids, cook meals and clean is a lot of work. There’s no down time.
I get a very nice parental leave at my job but I bet no one will survive past 2 days with only me with 2 kids.
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Not just childcare. It’s impossible to assign a value to the contributions a stay at home partner makes.
I’m in the same boat, with two sons aged 7 & 13. Wife quit her steady job a few years ago to raise the kids because the grandparents were getting older and busy with other younger grandkids. Her workplace was also becoming toxic so the stress was unhealthy for the whole family.
Over the course of the pandemic, I was so lucky to have her “at home”. When school was first cancelled, it wasn’t a big deal for us because she could keep the kids occupied. While I work from home, she takes kids to school and picks them up, gets groceries, runs errands, prepares meals, etc. Doctor or dentist appointments? No problem. Kid feeling unwell? No problem. How could we fit all of that in if both of us worked full time?
She’s started thinking of going back to work, but the selfish part of me isn’t ready for that yet. The bonus is that she gets to spend more time with the boys and watch them grow up. Maybe when the younger one is in high school...