[supafamous]

Originally Posted by inv4zn

It sounds like you (as the dad) are doing things right haha. Men should get literally no say when it comes to this, like others have said a lot of it is on the mom just because there's no other way.

One thing a friend with 3 kids told me before I had my kid is whenever you disagree on something related to children and buying things for them, you have two options.

1. Agree with the wife (even if you don't), that way she's happy and only you're upset (secretly).
2. Disagree with the wife, have a fight, now you're both unhappy and you're going to do whatever she wanted anyway.

It's half in jest, and yes it is a slippery slope, but the amount of discomfort/pain they go through for over a year because you didn't pull out warrants a lot of it. Plus hormones.

The above is true. However tired or stressed out you are remember that she has it worse than you. That doesn't mean you should suffer in silence (get a counsellor to talk to - dads also get post partum) it's just that you shouldn't take it out on your wife particularly late in the pregnancy and shortly after birth.

To help with this get an Amazon Prime account, let her order whatever it is she wants to order and just return stuff that doesn't work.