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^Kids change, you have to remember this - just because they don't sleep as well as 3 weeks ago doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. They could be teething, wonder week, anything else - you literally have to take it day by day. When it aligns with changes you make you might think oh no I've done something wrong, but don't think that, there's no way to tell anyway.
Another thing to note, and I've said this before, a lot of the times it's just easier for the dad to do what mom wants. Obviously everyone wants what's best (or what they think is best), and when you're faced with situations with no real right answer, take the route of least resistance. Also the mom put in the brunt of the effort during pregnancy and birth, they should get a bit of a free pass (obviously be reasonable, if she doesn't want vaccines for the kid for example, or wants to feed the baby probiotics at 5 months, then fight like hell over that.)
Fighting with your wife over things that in the big picture don't really matter does more harm than good. Talk it out, and if you do differ on opinion, find reputable sources (print books are best) and suggest you try things a certain way. Trying to cram something down each other's throats when you're both tired AF and also clueless won't work.
You want a healthy child, to grow up in a healthy family. That should be the end goal. Nothing you, or your wife do or don't do is going to have meaningful impact on who they are as a human being this early on in their life, your goal should be to let the child know s/he has two parents who love him/her unconditionally. Kids, even that young, pick up on cues that mom and dad are fighting all the time, and shit like THAT does last with the kid.
But yes, if this was easy, then everyone would do it haha. Good luck.
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