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Originally Posted by 68style
There's a younger couple in my building that smokes what must be multiple packs a day... they're out there together rain or shine like every damn hour... kudos to them, they stand on the sidewalk but what they don't realize is they're right next to the vent that takes in fresh air for the hallway circulation system, so it's literally blowing their smoke into the lobby...
I know they don't realize it and they don't mean harm... eventually I had to just casually mention it to them.
A lot of things are annoying but if you just be nice you can address it and they didn't realize things. I always try the nice approach first and more often than not it works out.
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I agree, a simple knock on the door and quick chat always is a better option, and usually results in a fair compromise for both parties.
It's the passive aggressive crap of stomping on floors, smashing brooms on the ceiling, or randomly calling police are the actions that create real conflict and dissonance between neighbors.
I remember years back I had a neighbor of mine randomly call the RCMP as a noise complaint at
6PM on a weekday on me because she could hear a podcast I was listening to while I cooked dinner off a Bluetooth speaker. I was in disbelief when my girlfriend opened the door to an officer while I was in the kitchen. He promptly laughed and left right away, as clearly we were not being loud or were having a party.
I ended up knocking on the door the next day, only to find out that the mother living in the unit had no idea that happened, it turns out it was her daughter who decided to call the police because the sounds of the podcast were "disturbing her studying".
Needless to say after many years of living here with them still as my neighbor, that never occurred again
