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Originally Posted by Traum
Just gonna second that Asian root comment Euro7r made here. There is a lot of Asian values that are good and all, but also a ton of stuff that is pure, utter BS. You are supposed to study hard when you are in school instead of spending time playing. Not supposed to date bcos it would distract you from school (and getting good grades). (And god forbid -- you must absolutley abstain from sex bcos... sex is evil and will totally screw up your life if anyone gets preggers?) You are supposed to go to university. Once out of university, you're supposed to find a good (white collar) job. And once you've worked for a few years, you're supposed to get married. And then once you got married, you're supposed to have kids anywhere within a year to no more than a few years. And you are supposed to get a house, and you are supposed to at least invite your parents to live there with you. And then you are supposed to let them look after your children for you, using the age-old ways that they raised you on, except for the parts where they absolutely forbid you to do when you were young (like having candies, for example), but now would spoil the grandchild rotten by doing exactly that very same thing (giving them lots of candies to eat, for example). And then you are supposed to bust your a$$ providing for your family.
There is just so much BS along every step of the way, with my favourite being how the hell am I supposed to marry someone if I wasn't allowed to date anyone at an earlier age?
Thankfully, my parents are generally not like that, even though they absolutely have the undertone for it -- but at least they kept a lid on it well enough to allow me to do whatever the heck I wanted to -- most of the time LOL~ But there are soooo many Asian parents who are like that. 
/rant |
Lmao, I experienced much of this growing up which definitely affected my relationship with my parents, and puts in perspective the type of parent I want to be when I decide to have kids.
The biggest thing for my parents was going to university and fulfilling their ideology of a "respectable" career as a physician or lawyer. I was never the book smart type, and ended up getting kicked out of university after being placed on academic probation.
My parents were often embarrassed about my career choices, and always compared me to their friend's kids who were going to SFU/UBC for some garbage degree.
In the end, I think I'm the only one that ended up with a detached property and a six figure salary.