[supafamous]

Congrats! Lots of great tips already which I won't repeat and a couple I don't think I saw yet:

- Be on the lookout for post partum depression for both yourself and your wife. It's much more prevalent in women but it also happens for men. You're both already off kilter with the new baby and it can be very easy to write-off unusual behaviour to "we're just tired" or "we're still recovering" when it is something more serious that should be addressed sooner than later. Help is absolutely available.
- While mom has the WAY harder job here this doesn't mean that you shouldn't provide yourself some self care. Don't be shy to get help so that you get a break from time to time - it's one thing to be responsible and support your wife more than yourself but it's another to burn yourself out while holding in your own anxieties or stress just because mom has it harder than you.

If you work in a place with a lot of other parents they will all understand what you are going through - don't be shy to share. If you don't then the reality is that your co-workers will not understand how hard it is - I can say it's a lot easier working at a place now where there are many parents who can empathize with you. At a minimum I hope you have a manager who you can be transparent with - tell them when you're not at your best.