[sonick]

When I host, assuming it is about 6-12 ppl, I typically manage the 'main' dishes and maybe a side that will leave the group not hungry. And then ask people to bring any additional sides/dessert/drinks they want to have themselves. Most ppl like to bring desserts/sweets and so I don't tend to prepare that.

A few weeks ago I did 2 lbs of wings, and burger bar where I laid out all the fixins and let ppl build their own burgers, both with meat and impossible for the vegan folks. This was for about 9 adults and 5 young kids.

I will be doing DIY taco night for 6 adults this coming weekend, where I'll grill up a nice flank or skirt steak for carne asada, some beyond meat with taco seasoning, and grilled eggplant. Along with the fixins of tortillas, grilled bell peppers, salsa/guac/sour cream, and cheese.

In my circle, I think its assumed ppl will not show up empty handed, and will have drinks enough for themselves at the very least, supplemented by additional options by the host. And then any drinks leftover is left for the host.

And then additional food is upon request as a favor from the host.