[ButterFingers]

Few things I wanted to go over:

Have you ever considered moving towards a cheaper cost of living area (either outside vancouver) or downsizing to a 2 bedroom apartment to reduce mortgaged amount. If you do not see that as an option, have you considered renting out a section of the home or single rooms?

I dont know what it's like being a mom nor wife, but I feel a lot of things can be taught to your kids, especially if the biggest kid is around 10/11. Whether it be laundry, washing dishes or house keeping. I know groceries can now be bought and carted online and picked up in store to reduce physical labour.

Also, since during morning the kids are at school that means after work/school hours, both yourself and your wife are at home. If you are able to, do you think you are able to help out with her workload after work hours? This could enable her to work during morning hours like yourself, where hours after work are shared parenting responsibilities when kids are home.

I also know there are a lot of work from home jobs nowadays, but whether they have it for entry roles I am unsure, but that could be an option for your wife. It could also be an option for yourself as well. It would allow you to allocate some of your wife's workload towards yourself during work hours. Hence enabling more ability for your wife to work.

I do get that your boss is a dick, but it also goes a long way when acting professional at a workplace ie. Using less slangs and proper grammer when replying in a professional work setting. The way people respond in a professional manner reflects themselves in a better light (not saying you are a bad worker, but it builds a picture)