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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld
have anyone you gone through difficulty in conceiving?
after trying for almost 15 months, its getting to me - usually able to handle the lows of life, but this is different.
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It's not as uncommon as it seems, but it's a battle that's very personal and often a secretive one that you usually end up battling alone with your partner... cause generally no one really likes sharing that info to everybody... and even if so, it can feel like you're the only one out of everyone you know that struggled. It usually catches people blindsided. We're taught more about not having accidents, making it seem common that pregnancy is a very easy thing.
Most people will try to be there for you in good intentions, but sometimes it doesn't really help since they don't fully understand the emotions if they haven't been there. There's a big difference between it not happening in several months vs several years. Especially with the buddies who had an easier time. "Just have more sex!" Sometimes people try to relate with you. "damn... hang in there, it took me 20 tries." What? 20 months? Nah dude, 20 times of sex.
I've been through it... and I've also seen first hand what it potentially does mentally for the female partner. Let me know if you need someone to talk to even if it's just to vent.