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Originally Posted by whitev70r
For those with parents going cray cray ... principle # 1 - do not engage in debate with them about any particular issue. First of all, it won't work to change their minds and secondly, it will result in both parties feeling frustrated, angry, and upset.
Imagine the tip of the iceberg analogy. Whatever bat shit thing they are talking about is the tip of the iceberg ... find out what is underneath and you will make strides and progress to calm their anxiety (what I hear from most of the above) down.
Again ... logic, reason, even showing proof WON'T work. It's not cognitive, something is going on underneath emotionally for them. My guess is anxiety, fear, knowing that they are nearing end of life, anger, resentment, etc.
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Yup, this is it right here. That's the only thing that's made conversations with my parents a bit easier. Don't engage, don't react just keep the conversation moving.
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