[EvoFire]

We had our first at 32, and the 2nd one at 35. I had thought we were old but at the daycare we are at right now most parents actually seem older than us. In the area we are living in (Fraserview) most parents who are at the playgrounds seem older as well. When we were living in Burnaby the demographics of parents seemed to be younger. My wife commented that it's harder to met mommies around here because there's less of them (Fraserview just isn't as dense) and they don't match up well.

Most of my friends are having kids around this age, whereas my wife's friends there were 3 that were younger, otherwise roughly the same as well.

When I do daycare dropoff or pickup, maybe because I am in tech and I dress a little more casual, but I feel like I stick out like a sore thumb sometimes. Dads showing up wearing suits or in work clothes, mom's in scrubs or semi business outfits. Here I am in a hat (cause my hair looks like shit) and shorts, and rumbling into the parking circle with my M3.....


I thought a little bit more about this. With the 1st kid we weren't ready for a long time, but my wife felt the clock was ticking and we didn't want to be any older. Our conclusion with having kids is you'll never be ready, you'll just have to make do with compromises. We did have one miscarriage and that was hard on my wife mentally.
With our second kid, we had a small window of time to do it as the townhouse we were in didn't have enough space, so we didn't try until we bought and moved into the current house. We also didn't want to have a kid past 36, and the gap between the two kids to be more than 4 years, so it gave us a small window to try. We did end up getting pregnant and now we have two.