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Originally Posted by PeanutButter
It's okay to have compassion and empathy for other people. If he wants to be the "nice" guy, I don't see a problem with it. He doesn't have a lack mentality. He knows he's moving onto bigger and better things. I think people need to shift their mindset from your line of thinking and look at the opportunity he has now.
He's free as a bird. His life is only going to get better. He's a 35 y.o single good looking man who makes close to $150k a year and his income will continue to increase. If you have to pick a winner, it's most definitely him. Without question.
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At the risk of getting labeled an accomplice in gayness
, I agree and I'm glad you posted this. I appreciate the reminder.
We're not our parents. They lived through times where happiness meant not going to bed hungry, after making sure the kids ate first and had their square meal. For them, happiness meant saving and hoarding every cent they could, because there was never enough money and they never know when tough would get tougher. People died.
But our lives aren't in the bottom of the hierarchy of needs anymore, not on buddy's income anyway.
It's a temporary cashflow setback to be sure, but he'll make it back. To your point, his income will only grow. He's a good guy and people respond to that. People notice when someone is relatable and respectable, and people like to take care of their own. I presume he practices that same empathy in the workplace, on a professional, technical, business capacity. That's a winning recipe in any career.
When you're doing ok for yourself, joy doesn't come from hoarding cash which is really just about survival and amassing cool material shit. Joy derives from things like having and acting on compassion for others. Giving and sacrificing judiciously, when and if it's the right thing to do, when it's not going to dip too badly into your own basic needs. Doing things that having meaning and purpose.
Imo, money only buys you happiness if you're dirt poor. Being a decent person buys you joy when you're doing alright and beyond.