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Originally Posted by Badhobz
what!? id throw your children into a fucking blender and hit puree. Chihuahua kids are where its at  |
You would throw my children into a blender? What do you mean?
Sorry, I've been really bad at understanding shit the older I get. I'm pretty aloof sometimes.
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Originally Posted by whitev70r
You haven't seen enough sh*t in the world. What if one of your child stole a huge amount of money from you or from one of your other children (when they are in their 30's or 40's). What if one of your children (married with children) leaves his/her spouse for another partner of the same gender and effing up the psychology of your grandchildren?
Unconditional love ideally is true ... but never say never. Sometimes disowning is the only proper appropriate response.
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I guess to many, I haven't seen enough shit, you might be right.
Honestly, If my child stole money from me or anyone, my first thought would be, he must have really needed the money and he must have a pretty valid reason on why he did what he did and I need to find him and help him immediately.
Likewise, if my son who is married with children leaves for another partner of the same sex abruptly, without notice, my first instinct would be he needs my help and he is probably going through some crazy shit, and I need to be there for him.
The relationship I have with my children and the relationship I strive to have is a relationship where there is clear and open communication at all times. I will always be there to support them. I will always love them. My kids are very young, but I stive to instill those values every single day with them.
Now, I wish my relationship with my asian parents was the same way, but I don't think that would ever be possible. They grew up in a different time and with different values. I understand that.
I really can't see any scenario where the only appropriate response is to disown my child.
What was really crazy to me was when I was talking to my friends boyfriend (let's call him, John), John said he would disown his own father if he found out his dad was defrauding people for money. He said morally he couldn't have a relationship with a person who did that. To me, that sounded crazy to think someone would disown their own parent on a moral stance. Not sure if it's a cultural thing or not.