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Originally Posted by 68style
If you are with someone who is very inflexible about location, it can be quite a serious detriment to the relationship and cause immense frustration I think. It's tough when you're not just 1 person making a decision.
Kudos to all your guys parents and parents parents that made the tough decisions to move to different countries etc.
Best you can do when you have to have a consensus from so many different individuals is present the facts as you have them and have a conversation. Show options. Show what benefits there could be and make a list of the pros and cons. That's what we both did individually and together as a couple. Maybe you convince them that your idea is great and they warm up to it, maybe they hate it and there's no point in thinking of it anymore or they need to provide an alternative if in fact change is mandatory and just staying put or staying the course is no longer an option. Communication is the most important thing in my mind.
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That's the hardest thing to do - my wife is very inflexible with location. I showed her all those Ladner/Tsawassen listings from earlier in the thread, and all got rejected as too far from her parents.
We both have fairly portable skill jobs, but the inflexibility regarding family is ruling out moving even 1 hour away to a suburb where home ownership is cheaper. It's tough.
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Originally Posted by Great68
Are people really so dumb as to believe the return trip is "free"?
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100% you bet.