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Looking through the thread, I think many advice already offered are solid. This is truly the beauty of RS. We might disagree on shit, but eventually all come together when needed.

As for input from my own perspective, I just want to add, put whatever negativity you might feel into driving force.

When I was in sales, I hated the job. I was away for more than 1/3 of the year easily and had to do super long hours (ever done back to back trans-pacific flying? Like right after you land kinda b2b). But I grind through it. The pay was good (rent subsidy, employee car and very lucrative incentive if I closed a deal) and I needed it. I knew a lot in CRE, but in order to really start my own thing, I needed cash. I turned that hate of my job into doing anything I could to close a deal. I just kept going and didn't stop until my son was born where I found the incentives no longer outweighed the cost of losing the ability to see my son grow up.

A lot of your stress or dissatisfaction seems to come from money. As my dad would often say, any problem that can be solved with money is never a problem. It's just where to get the money. And my suggestion is, get your shit fucking together instead of making an explanation or justification for it.

House is what it is. I don't see much to do about it because it's a necessity. It's not like you guys are living in a mansion when a simple place would do. With you bro leaving, I might see a possibility of renting out the room or do homestay.

Car is something that I see can make a change... get a beater or an used EV and it would significantly push down your car-associated cost assuming you drive enough. Put it on Finance/Leasebuster.

Job is also something to make some change about. You said it yourself that you are in robot mode. Why not do a different robot that offers higher stability? Conductors in both CP/CN/Translink are always an option. With C-1 license it even open doors to many other things. But the key here, regardless which option was "patience". And this is going to go a long way, which I will add later. Many jobs suck monkey balls the first few years, but once you pass that stage, everything become so easy and simple.

Pussy game will eventually follow as you become more stabilized on all things. Dating for guys is like wine, it usually gets better as it ages. Look no further than Hobz where he has Ferrari-driving chick wetting herself.

The keyword is "self-improvement" but that takes time, and hence patience. How do you become a better version of yourself? My go-to guide is something taught by a mentor of mine. He said... "you should spend an hour improving yourself every single day at least. It doesn't matter what it is. Whether it's to read a good book, taking care of your personal hygiene/look, work on some side gigs... etc". It doesn't sound like much. But it had helped me immensely the last decade or so.
Cut everything that stands in your way right now (car payment, mortgage by rent a room out... etc) and focus. Give it a few years and see what it's doing to you.

Too often, especially with social media, we get so obsessed on "nice" life. What you don't see is the story behind it. So, cut those shit out and focus. Eventually, if you keep improving yourself, all that nice things in life will follow. But if you focus first on nice things, your life will always be miserable because you are always looking at that thing. But with enough effort, you will see that all those nice "things in life" people post on social media, trips, cars, pussies will be more like "what should I do today?"

High value in my opinion is being able to not give a fuck. Anyone who still needs their job, or depends on other things or person, IMO is not a high value person. When you are high value, you choose what you want to do and what you want to chase. But if you depend on others for whatever... it means your value is not high enough.