I had a similar mindset back in HS, and I was doing quite well academically back then too, so it reinforced the the concept and the belief that I was among the smartest. Fast forward to university, and I was served a very big slice of humble pie in the big pond. Every subject was tough. Everyone around me seemed like they were so smart, so aware of what they want, so driven, and that just blew me away. And then when the first midterm came, I failed it miserably -- it was a mid 40's score out of 100, although to be fair, the median mark was right aroudn there too LOL~
I've wisened up a bit since then. But later on when I transferred to Ontario for school, it was another mind-blowing moment as most people around me seemed to be at least 2x as smart, and work 3x as hard as what I was used to see at SFU. That was really humbling.
Ironically, having heavily immersed myself in autox was yet another humbling and massive learning experience. It made me realize no matter how good I was, mistakes will always be made, and perfection is nearly impossible to achieve even though it always seems to be within reach. And then when you screw up -- there is no turning back, and all you can do is to keep looking forward, and make the best out of the rest of the journey. To me at least, that last point was a really valuable life lesson.
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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS
I wonder if 655 and the pressure of being the best there kinda fucked me up. The feeling of never being good enough, needing to be the best of the best, needing absolute perfection, and if you're not the best then you're shit and a waste of life. I wonder if all that as a HS kid, caused more issues than I actually know.. ..
I mean I wasn't complaining back then, but there's a chance it explains the extremely high desire to be perfect and the self worth issues as a result of it.
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