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Old 01-03-2025, 10:34 PM   #11
CivicBlues
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She sees her psychologist/counsellor every quarter, but I feel sometimes it does more harm than good. Doctors have good intent to help you, but her psychologist would pull up all the things from her childhood on what makes her unhappy, and it leads to her "mom".
Is she seeing a professional who is umm..culturally compatible (i.e. Asian)? I don't have experience with this but I've heard from others its sometimes hard to relate to advice given by white psychologists who lack the cultural baggage you are describing about your MIL.

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She brought up the idea of moving out to live independently for awhile to find herself back, but I've kinda fought against this idea as we are married. When someone is ill, walking away from your spouse isn't the most healthiest, so kinda stuck what to do.
No one else brought this up but this is a huge red flag to me and I would nip this in the bud if it were. Is there any indication she maybe looking outside of the marriage for support (i.e. Emotional cheating if not plain old cheating?)
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