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If you can, try to split the days/nights the first month. I took 4 and 5 mo parental for each of my kids from their birth. I tried to do all the night feeds/changes so one of us could sleep. During the days was easier as our moms would come help some.
One suggestion would be to make sure the kid gets used to a bottle feed as it can help later on. You won't know if your wife will have milk production issues or not, and it's easier to feed them if mom's not around. If she's got good milk production, pump and store some, use that for the night feed so she can get some sleep. We knew of a couple friends that had issues bottle feeding later on due to the baby preferring the boob.
Be there for your wife too. There's still a bit of a stigma for moms who can't breastfeed. The home nurse who visited made my wife feel like a failure not not being able to produce. Fed is best for the kid. Formula, breast, whatever. Locally, the breast is best push has been reduced somewhat since a local mom with post partum unalived herself, with breastfeeding as one of her triggering factors
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