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Originally Posted by 6793026
Hey, did all of you get time off during the 1st month?
Wife is really wanting me to go off grid for 1st month. I do get a chance to work from home and I do like my job so I thought it might be ok to just periodically log on.
Happy wife happy life so I don't want to piss her off.
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I took 2.5 months off for the 1st kid (100% paid), and right now I'm in my last few days of taking 4 months off for the 2nd kid (was 100% paid for 1.5 months, and then just EI)). Am fortunate that I got that much covered by work, we would not have survived this otherwise.
The first couple months can be tough. The level of difficulty (not just physical but mental) can really vary depending on the kid, how much patience you two have, and by how well the breastfeeding / pumping is going. I think being there and present for your wife is going to really help her out, especially since recovery / postpartum depression can be rough.
Also the disruption to sleep is going to be real. Newborns only sleep about 20-50 minutes at a time, and need to constantly be fed and held, screeching and crying the whole time. Adult sleep cycles are 90 minutes long, which means whoever is with the baby won't be getting real sleep during that time. Even if you're lucky that you guys can fall asleep instantly under any conditions (I can't, and so I can't even nap in between), it's going to be hard not to take time off, unless your job is super chill.