[AstulzerRZD]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

210K - 530K solo is fucked. This is all cursed. No shade on your partners but I bet their line is "I have a lifestyle I want to live".

How do you even figure out their finances in the early stages of dating when you're just getting to know them? In your later stages of dating, there's a sunk cost fallacy to be considered.

They like to say that they grieve the relationship while being in the relationship and as soon as they decide that it's over, it's over. And immediately jump to next.

...And men are the problem... :eyeroll:

I hear you, dating is hard for everyone but for different reasons.

I find the women in my life aren't struggling for attention, they're struggling to find fit, safety, and life alignment.

On finances, you gotta date like your hot girl friends: throw your opinions out there, ask questions that are kinda testy and see what comes back to you. A few things I have fun with:

Talk about travel and group trips because it not only makes for a fun convo, you'll get one of the three responses:

- Red flag "My friend Darong kept suggesting L places for the ski trip! It didn't have a butler or an onsen in the room so I didn't even wanna go, ew."
- Yellow flag "I get anxious about overspending, ugh my friend kept wanting to stay at the W. I'll pay for safety/location."
- Green flag "Yeah! I made friends in London/Hawaii and I love visiting them with gifts, so I'll usually stay with them and give them a great experience when I travel. You should meet Sophie when we go to Paris"

Talk about fashion, women love talking about it: mention you thrifted some dope stuff in Japan and found Birkins there too.

- Red flag "My ex was so stingy! I just wanted a Kelly and he wouldn't even take me to the Hermes store"
- Yellow flag "These Manolos are terrible, they were 800 and they fell apart after one day!"

Role play:
"I feel like you're the kind of girl I could take to dinner in heels but also hit the McDonalds drivethru with at 2AM"
If $5k landed in your lap - would you rather invest in a handbag, book a flight to South Africa, or donate to a pet shelter. You're just opened up 3 more conversation topics here.

- Green flag "Por que no los dos"

State your plan: "I'll get the dinner, you'll take us to your favourite dessert spot and treat us"
- Green flag "Deal, I know the perfect gelato place... but if you're a mint chocolate man, this is never gonna work out"

AND If they're giving you shit, you can share your opinion in a flirty way..

"oh but are you a generous man"
depends on who's asking

"why don't you get this for me, after all I'm pretty aren't I"
what is this a charity? I love dog shelters tho and especially huskies, what's your favourite dog

"i only do dinner on the first date"
isn't it boring having to carry a whole conversation? i have so much more fun doing activity dates, we'll grab food along the way, and we'll grab dinner for the second date if we vibe

"you're not a 50/50 man are you"
I'm not counting but I'm very persuadable by effort... be careful what you ask for"
"I'm a 100/100 guy, wouldn't life be so boring if we didn't spoil each other?"

What might blow your mind is half the time I ask a girl what she's looking for, no matter what she says, I'll give the same answer and they always go "exactly!!! finally someone gets it"

> I'm only looking for a relationship
Me: Same, looking to vibe with someone cool and date them a while if they're really cool.
I literally think the word "same" really gets them