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Originally Posted by mikemhg
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You were pretty active in the Speak It Out thread, giving advice to people who were in similar issues. Might want to go back and read your own words and see if your brain clicks with your past self?
To me, talking with a dude she's known for a short while yet calls him 'a brother' but is fine with cutting him off completely is a pretty big red flag when you dissect it and I'm just basing that on what little I know. I'm just connecting the threads of info here. It's like an odd contradiction of reactions and her mind seems to be trying to patch up her verbal slip-ups.
But given you have so many years with her, this is some meditation level energy that needs to be harnessed and eventually dealt with. Both of you having emotional blenders in your minds will never be healthy. Not now, not tomorrow, and certainly not 10 years from now after a kid has already been born.
It may 'never be a good time to have a kid' but you and her have to make sure you are on equal footing and are ready and willing (and ENTHUSIASTIC) to pursue such an incredible milestone. It's November now. This year is almost over. Don't rush now. Time is not a book you close when the year is up. It's an endless stream of our consciousness and the vessels we control with our actions and our intentions.
I'm sure you'll come up with what you feel is best. And I'm sure she will too.
Good luck!