[westopher]

I disagree with the childcare thing about the 9-5. My wife works a rotation and we get
A) more time alone
B) more time each solo parenting
Than any of the 9-5 families we know. I work Wednesday to Saturday (flexible) 10 hour days and she works two days 2 nights.
I get at least 2 days a month alone with the kid at daycare. Probably 3-4 days solo parenting, she gets several days a month solo with the kid at daycare, 3-4 days solo parenting.
We also get 3-4 days a month alone together while the kid is at daycare.
It’s so much better than 100% of your time being at work or family time. You get some freedom, some time to bond with your kid alone, and some time alone for your hobbies. It’s really good and I see the parents who spend 100% of their non daycare time as a family and they get so stuck in a rut because 100% of their identity is just parenting. They really become boring people.
People ask how we do it, but I just laugh and say man we’ve got it easy.