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Originally Posted by supafamous
While we're talking about neighbour I'd like your guys take on a situation we had with our neighbour a few weeks back that led to blow-up between them and my wife:
My tenant did a FB sale with someone who came by the house. The buyer came by car, was parked on the street and when they were leaving they had some garbage. There was a garbage can (the city issued ones) on the street next to his car so he threw the garbage into it - this garbage can was my neighbours.
My neighbour saw this garbage when they went to collect their garbage can, watched their security footage and saw it was the buyer and told us about it. We apologised though we didn't know this person and subsequently the neighbour asked us to get the garbage and put it into our garbage. We agreed to do it but thought it was just weird and that this kinda stuff happens all the time (our garbage/green bin collection is all at the front of our houses so people walk by, pick through shit and sometimes throw stuff in) so what's the big deal?
That incident triggered a bunch of shit later that day between them and my wife and we're not on speaking terms now but was this neighbour right to tell us about it and ask us to fix it or is it just kinda weird?
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I think this could be why it's helpful to invest in the relationship and force a friendship with the neighbors.
I can understand both sides of this: seems like a lot of principled clashing. Imagine if you were neighbors with an actual friend though. You'd be way more willing to see things from each other's perspective, give them more room for fkery, be more willing to let stuff slide, etc.
I've been working real hard over the last 1.5 years we've lived here, to go super out of my way to make personal connections with the people around us, ritually drop off chocolate and a card at Christmastime, keep up a rapport over Whatsapp / email, etc.
I continually remind them that that I'd love a chance to address any annoyances that I'm inadvertently fking them with, etc.
If I have to live long term around these people, I'd like to make them feel like they're on my side and looking out for me, way more than I'd want to be looking for ways to fk me lol.