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Originally Posted by CivicBlues
Aw shit did you actually break up after all that drama? That sucks man, but sounds like it was for the best.
Can we go after Vlad now?
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Ya we broke up in the worst way possible, I never would've thought it would end the way it did.
I have a high EQ and can read through bullshit very easily with people, it's always been a strength. I spent months having this "feeling", an inclination that something else was going on, the "peeing on my feet and telling me it was raining". I leave to Mexico for a few weeks next Friday, and I had to get a final confirmation of what my gut instinct was telling me this whole time.
I finally broke last week and went into her phone, as I had known the password, I've never done that with a GF before, I've always believed in the adage that if you go digging, you'll find dirt.
Boy did I ever find dirt. A bunch of things that were happening behind my back, of which I don't want to post about on this forum. Needless to say, what I read and saw made me sick to my core, and broke my heart utterly, the stuff that was going on was diabolical, lying to my face this entire time in full confidence.
I never would've believed she'd do this to me, and to that degree, we were lovers and best friends, but here we are. The confrontation did not go well, it was like a mask came off to reveal the true person I had been with, it was like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde when the mask came off. She was more concerned with how I found out, as opposed to what she had been doing to me all this time behind my back. Then came the insults, emasculation, provocation, it all escalated very quickly, I ended up having to call the police to de-escalate. We haven't spoken since.
I'll be in Mexico when she moves all her stuff out, who knows if we'll speak again. Part of me does want some closure to all of this, I want to understand it all, why did she do all this. I hate ending things on these terms, and don't want to walk away thinking she's this evil, vile being, and second guess the person she ever was in the first place. It's fucking with my head to a degree, and I don't want to believe that.
Perhaps closure will never come, in hindsight this might've been the best way to have ended this 6-year relationship, and to allow me to move on. She moves into a new place 5 minutes down the street from me, and this breakup could've strung me along for months more thinking we were working on things from apart, trying to "reset", when clearly that wasn't the case. She had other intentions not known to me.