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Originally Posted by Gerbs
Why is that, I met a buncha fobs last year, 3-4 of them are married at early 20's.
All divorced, cheating with kids. Had money early so they could afford to get married?
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If they are rich 2nd gen from Mainland China within the 35 - 45 yrs old cohort (currently), then chances are:
1) Marrying young was a traditional norm and expectation. Women will start getting pressured from their parents to get married if they haven't by the time they turn 25. Guys will probably see the same when they reach their late 20's.
2) They don't necessarily marry for love, and there are a whole lot of other reasons to get married. Some just do it to get their parents off their backs. Some do it out of a matter of cultural / societal norm. Some do it just to have kids. And if your family is rich enough, sometimes you marry for strenthening familial ties and such.
3) They are expected to have kids once they get married. Again, parents will start nagging their (married) children to have kids.
4) Infidelity is not a particularly surprising thing. Some may choose to turn a blind eye towards that; others may not.
But things are no longer quite like that for the Mainland Chinese crowd. Esp for those women who are better educated and/or higher up in their careers, their expectations have remained very high, as everyone pretty much only have their eyes towards marrying up, or finding someone at least on the same level as they are. But again, unmarried men fitting that category are not only few and far inbetween. Even when they are available, they prefer a mate who is younger, and often look for more of a home caretaker to attend to the family needs instead of career women. It has become such a serious problem that it has even received international (news media) attention.