https://www.reddit.com/r/askvan/comm...ing_a_car_for/
Guy asks in r/AskVan how big a dealbreaker it is to not have a car for dating. Quite a lot of responses say it's not a big deal while some definitely say it's a dealbreaker.
Regarding all the negative comments about women's unreasonable expectations in today's dating world I've been out of the dating pool for a long time so I don't have direct personal experience but I do have a lot of cousins in the late 20s to early 30s age range who are middle class folks that I talk to a fair bit and I haven't heard them talk about the dating world the way I'm hearing it here.
Re: Coffee dates - I'd only do that if it's a blind date or someone I know nothing about. Any time I asked a girl out it was someone I'd gotten to know at least a bit - enough that I had real interest versus just it being a crapshoot - so that I was willing to put some time and money behind it. I'm asking so I'm paying, it's not about gender roles, it's about manners - I asked for your time and attention and the least I can do is pick up the tab.
I do a lot of networking and it's not so different in that world - people buy me lunch/drinks all the time and I do the same for them depending on who asked and who's the one getting more of out it. Sometimes it's cheap (coffee when it's a stranger), sometimes it's a bit pricier (lunch, dinner or even a nice bottle of alcohol). Anyone who knows me a bit and asks me for my time knows to offer lunch or drinks and not just a cup of coffee. Feels like it works just like dating.