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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS
I realized that I don't mind spending some money on someone that I actually vibe really well with, ie. paying for brunch with no expectations to (she did cook me dinner so i guess it evens out?), picking them up and driving them everywhere, hanging out with them doing silly things (like shopping I normally hate shopping), holding their bags/jackets (weirdly it did not make me feel emasculated).
But it's when they *expect* a specific structured dynamic of 80-110 / 0-20, is when that pisses me off or when they expect that dynamic, right off the rip and I don't even know who tf you are LOL.
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The expectation throws me off too, I love the illusion of me providing but it's okay if I don't. It's so weird
Maybe it's because in the back of my mind, if I stop paying for shit they'll leave, idk. Also maybe it's the lack of reciprocity