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my older girl friends said they're all tired and damaged, then told me to date younger 
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low key they got played cuz they didn't have the social aptitude to lock down the man they want - now they guarded af
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Originally Posted by Gerbs
everyone I've dated longterm showed 30-60% effort, I cuffed and was happy to shift to 80/20. She got it backwards haha.
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Low key every girl who ain't playing is bringing small little gifts to me on 2nd/3rd date - they aren't in "logical, I got played so now i'm thinking about numbers" mode like the bitter ones are.
My general principle is that it's not about any specific number. Both people should make their interest and 'choosing' of the other person kinda clear because it's no fun to be on a date where both people aren't "running towards each other".
for example, on 1st date? If I do planning and get meal/drinks - she should offer to get the dessert at the 2nd spot when i decline her offer to help with the meal.
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"thank you for driving, to the venue, dinner, home, 3x wtf?"
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this is such a green flag because the effort/contribution gap gets far worse when we do step into the provider role and deal with more bs around the house in the future. also shows she respects your time
that said, some girls are different and afraid of expressing their appreciation. doesn't mean i have to be ok with it tho.