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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS
My friend got the ick from her bf over the holiday season, apparently he was being too feminine/clingy for her - they're LDR and she would just be turned off by the things he does or how he behaves when he visits. So she starts flirting with another man - "for fun" / "it was harmless" she says. Fast forward to the day before Valentine's, she made out with this man in the elevator, hooked up with him multiple times throughout the night/next day, and then breaks up with her bf on valentine's day. Fast forward some more, the now-ex-bf wanted closure and asked if she even feels sad, she puts on an act and then gaslight herself into being sad. Then went to a therapist who used therapy words to label her behavior and let her avoid accountability. Ironically, this bf is the guy she starting flirting with, when she was in her last (albeit abusive) relationship. And while all this is happening, her ex-bf from like 20 years ago drops in with a msg/email/dm every now and then for last 20 years while she's in other r/s... idk why (well I know why) she doesn't just no contact and block/ignore him on everything. "Judgement free-zone" but I called her a whore and told her there's a pattern of lacking accountability.
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Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS
I realized that I don't mind spending some money on someone that I actually vibe really well with, ie. paying for brunch with no expectations to (she did cook me dinner so i guess it evens out?), picking them up and driving them everywhere, hanging out with them doing silly things (like shopping I normally hate shopping), holding their bags/jackets (weirdly it did not make me feel emasculated).
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So this is the same chick and my friends were like "hard launch?" and my initial reaction is HELL NO, this chick is a walking red flag and she would fucking ruin me more than a SMG E60 M5. This is retard meets retard, it'd be like dating myself.
But my other (female) friend started to gas light me into thinking more about it - that IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE THAT - dating yourself. So I'm like but you'd have to be attracted to them first right? Apparently, not LOL.
And then I gas lit myself into thinking about it.. that it's really nice getting to be silly and unrelentlessly goofy with someone. And that for once, I actually feel seen. I can't really describe our dynamic aside from we're just shamelessly stupid with each other since there's no judgement whatsoever, and I wouldn't ever act this retarded with anyone else. Even with the boys, I always have a wall or two up.
Is this what "slow burn" looks like??
Ngl, I had so much fun taking her out and taking care of her, and just having a good time together. It beats all the other dates, whom I just don't vibe - like that with.
The other night when I was over, she asked me if a certain picture was sexy, from a man's perspective and I didn't want to answer cause I didn't want to think of her that way (I said iunno you're not my type LOL - bitch is flat as a board) - can't go back after that.
Aside from the above
glaring red flags, it would also be really messy cause it would put our mutual friend in a difficult position (who is an informal therapist for both of us lol) and we're both very involved with our mutual friend's kid's life. But otoh, if it worked out, it'd already be perfect :clown:
Anyway, since this chick would
FUCKING RUIN ME, I think imma go take a trip to Campbell River to go bang this viet chick to get my mind off this LOL. Also have a trip planned for South Korea next month (work trip), so gonna be hitting up shawties there too. I moved my Hinge location to Seoul, and I instantly got 4-5 "likes" from the equivalent of Vancouver 7/8s LOL. It's wild.