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I have some time to kill, so some random thoughts after going through the whole thread so far:
IMO, some of the criticism directed against girls can apply to both sides, like girls going for the top 10% of guys on dating platforms. Lots of guys would go for the top 10% of the girls as well (which is why that top 10% girls just need to swipe the likes they received), even though they are 2 or 3 themselves. Not trying to defend the delulu girls out there - I would avoid them as well, but there are guys that are delulu as well. Like for the guys that somehow thinks 8 likes are not enough, drop the phone and hit the gym, pick a hobby, etc. Focus on self improvement if you are having absolutely zero luck on the app and is desperate enough to keep paying.
Used to have a pretty hot HK coworker and there were times when she left for work, random people on Skytrain would hit on her, and even worse, there were creeps that actually followed and bugged her the whole way from work to the Skytrain station.
App has its problems, of course, but one thing that's good about it is that people are generally on there to date. There are the delulu ones that just want the attention, of course, but one thing that can be awkward with IRL is figuring out if someone is single (there can be clues but it's not always clear), and beyond that, if someone is just overly friendly with you without actually wanting to date (intentionally or unintentionally). People can go on apps to cheat as well, but if that happens, or you just don't vibe with the girl, you do have the option of just ghosting. I have chatted with a girl before that basically had 0 EQ, and when she crossed the line, I just stopped chatting with her. If you got to know someone IRL at a hobby club or something and it doesn't work out, it's awkward unless one of you drop out, and people in that circle might start gossiping. Pros and cons for each approach, really just depends on the style. I tend to over-worry so IRL is tricky for me, but I am not rejecting that possibility entirely, either.
I can see porn as a factor (thanks for getting past the paywall for us!), but another one is that some of us come from divorced parents ourselves, so our views of love/relationship can be a bit different. I have a girl friend I chat with often that comes from a divorced family like me. She is in an LTR but she pretty much said she doesn't believe in love, really, and sees it a means to an end. I personally am just a lot more cautious about relationships since I wouldn't want my future kids to go through what I had to.
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