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Originally Posted by whitev70r
Woe ... you gotta let that go bro!
How is it that sometimes we know the unreasonable root cause of our ass behaviour and can't reprogram ourselves?
It really depends how you explain dutch/pay your own to that chic from the app. If you 'flat out' told her, I see how she dropped you like a turd. But if you said, 'Would you mind if we paid our own on our 1st time?' Maybe it would have turned out better?
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You're living in a different time my friend. If you so much as mention AA/Dutch/splitting the bill in any manner you will be dropped immediately because:
1. you're a cheapskate
2. by not paying, that means you're not interested (my female friend said this during discussions and my other females friends seemed to agree)
3. clearly you'll never be a provider if you can't even pay for a date
4. girls spend so much to look good that you should/owe it to them to be paying the date (serious actual line of thinking some have)
The above is also why many girls poo-poo the idea of a coffee date because that's cheap and requires little planning. AKA, they can't get a sense of how much you're willing to spend in order to get their attention away from the hordes of men also chasing her. Therefore, it's a shit date idea and you're cheap AF so time to ghost you.
In reality, it's an easy way to get to know someone and either one of you can bail if it goes poorly. It also requires both parties being able to hold a conversation which many (and I mean MANY) simply have no personality beyond their looks so a date like this exposes them to reality.
Also, on the opposite spectrum if a girl pays for the entire date (other than BIC's scenario, it seems) it usually means they don't want to see you again. This is them trying to walk away with a clean conscience because they no longer owe you anything from previous dates you likely paid for. Even this though, is rare because many don't feel like they owe you a damn thing to begin with.