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Originally Posted by spoon.ek9
You're living in a different time my friend. If you so much as mention AA/Dutch/splitting the bill in any manner you will be dropped immediately because:
1. you're a cheapskate
2. by not paying, that means you're not interested (my female friend said this during discussions and my other females friends seemed to agree)
3. clearly you'll never be a provider if you can't even pay for a date
4. girls spend so much to look good that you should/owe it to them to be paying the date (serious actual line of thinking some have)
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This 100% - I personally know girls exactly like this. Some are even worse.
Interestingly, I think you'd be surprised as to the root cause of this behaviour and mindset. Speaking from personal experience, having dated mostly fobs and just one CBC girl in the past, it's interesting how progressive and open minded most fobs are, in contrast with shockingly traditional CBC girls.
Of course I can only speak for myself, but out of all the fobs I've dated - from ESL chicks to those who have been here since high school, not one of them have ever had any expectation for guys to pay for their everything. I think for fob girls, that kind of mindset is mostly limited to girls with princess syndrome.
The only CBC girl I dated had extremely conservative, traditional Chinese parents who left mainland China in the early 80s. Their way of thinking was really strange, and my theory is that it was passed along to their daughter. Thus, it was like I was dating some CCP mindset super China girl who spoke fluent English without any accent lol.
So my theory is that CBC kids were raised by parents who left Asia in the 70s/80s/90s, before things were "modernized" - their way of thinking is stuck in the olden days, which is why CBC guys and gals often have fucked up ways of thinking that seem out of touch with today's society. I've often heard fob parents say 什麼時代了, which literally translates to "what era is this?" and roughly translates to "get with the times" or "that's so outdated". This makes me think that the vast majority of fobs or Asians in China/HK/Taiwan have moved on from some traditional ways of thinking due to convenience or lack of time from work culture. Might be wrong but curious as to what you guys think of this?
One girl I know said that she was raised by her grandparents, and because her grandpa provided for her grandma and she never had to work/pay for anything, she expects her future man to do the same. It's sad that she doesn't realize that things are pretty different compared to what they were a century ago
