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Originally Posted by Akinari
Interestingly, I think you'd be surprised as to the root cause of this behaviour and mindset. Speaking from personal experience, having dated mostly fobs and just one CBC girl in the past, it's interesting how progressive and open minded most fobs are, in contrast with shockingly traditional CBC girls.
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I wonder if this is why I do significantly better in Asia, than I do here. On one of my dates in Korea, a girl insisted on paying because I spent so much of my time taking care of her (this is an as you should thing that I agree with), and idk if it was so that there wouldn't be a second date, but man... her eye contact game and the tension.. fml take me back to Korea hahah
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Originally Posted by Akinari
Single Asian CBC girls I know in Vancouver in their 30s:
Live at home
Parents are rich
Expect western-style chivalry but Asian-style financial spoiling
Go to dates with basically what amounts to an Excel spreadsheet to play pretend financial planner when they don't even have to pay for their car or gas or insurance etc.
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This. The girl I went out with recently had a similar family upbringing with me - parents rented their whole lives (or are still renting) so I shockingly didn't encounter the usual, which is the above.
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Originally Posted by spoon.ek9
You're living in a different time my friend. If you so much as mention AA/Dutch/splitting the bill in any manner you will be dropped immediately because:
1. you're a cheapskate
2. by not paying, that means you're not interested (my female friend said this during discussions and my other females friends seemed to agree)
3. clearly you'll never be a provider if you can't even pay for a date
4. girls spend so much to look good that you should/owe it to them to be paying the date (serious actual line of thinking some have)
Also, on the opposite spectrum if a girl pays for the entire date (other than BIC's scenario, it seems) it usually means they don't want to see you again. This is them trying to walk away with a clean conscience because they no longer owe you anything from previous dates you likely paid for. Even this though, is rare because many don't feel like they owe you a damn thing to begin with.
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In my scenario, she doesn't do lashes (only glued on lashed) and doesn't get her nails or hair done. She was telling me how her coworkers (nurses) all pay at least $1000/mo to get all of those things done on a MONTHLY basis. I think leave in conditioner and other treatments is like $700 or smt. Wack.
She did ask me why men don't like it / get offended when she offers to pay on the date. Asked if it was ego. I didn't really answer, but I forgot that men are just conditioned to pay, it's not even a why thing it's a norm thing.
She said she wanted to pay cause I went to go pick her up, then drive us to Bellingham for our date, and gas is expensive. Sure, I guess. I offered to split dinner, because dinner was gonna be relatively expensive (well eating out in general is expensive, and it was gonna be more than PandaEx) but she insisted on paying.
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Originally Posted by Tapioca
If you're in a profession where you're meeting people constantly, like sales, marketing, public affairs, etc., you're presenting your best self to close deals and build relationships- it's not hard to understand how others would find you attractive.
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Being in this role and being in Korea while in this role. 100% agree. I'm always looking my absolute best (as best as I can be) - even got a perm for an event (who am I? a chick??) and I'm sure my role/status/social network all added points to attractiveness.