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Relationship & Gender DiscussionTHIS SPACE OPEN FOR ADVERTISEMENT. YOU SHOULD BE ADVERTISING HERE! The thin line between love and hate
Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex...
That moment where you just dont feel like yourself anymore.
All the stress surrounding you that just keeps weighing you down.
But all you can do is just continue to fight it until it "gets better"
you would've been proud of me today.. it was the highlight of a 'crawl under a rock and die' kind of day...
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Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Make the effort and take the risk..
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Firstly, I'd just like to thank all of you who commented and gave me advice on the previous post, and because the post got so much attention I thought it wouldn't be fair for me not to make an update.
As many comments suggested that I do, is to slightly hint toward the notion that I am perfectly happy with having a gay son, while letting him do the work in actually saying the words "I'm gay", and I thought that was a very good idea.
I started off with talking about general media with him, for instance I mentioned how awesome it was that Tim Cook (CEO of Apple) came out as being gay and I asked him what he thought about it and I was completely expecting him to give a typical teenager response like "yeah.. its good" or something like that but he actually gave me a detailed response which I absolutely loved because for the first time in a good while I've actually held a conversation with my son that felt really... rewarding.
I also wanted to talk to him about how I've noticed that he's not been acting as cheerful as he usually has and I sort of gave the cliche spiel of "I love you no matter what and I just want to see you be happy" but I didn't get much of a response that time apart from "yeah I know.."
The next day as I picked him up from school I thought I'd ask him about any crushes he has, and I wanted to make sure I didn't say a gender when I asked him, so instead of 'he' or 'she' I used 'they' etc.. Here is that conversation as I remember it...
Me: So, do you have a crush on anyone?
Son: Uhm... no..m..maybe..
Me: Ohhh so who is the lucky person?
At this point he sort of looked at me slightly confused, I'm not 100% sure why, but I'm assuming it is because I said "lucky person" rather than "lucky girl".
Son: Just someone from my french class...
Me: Oh yeah... so what do you like about them?
Son: Just.. stuff..
Me: Okay.. but.. like what?
Son: I donno they're just kinda funny I guess...
At this point I dropped the conversation but just before I did I told him "Well, whoever it is, they should be so lucky to have you as a boyfriend.." and while I didn't see it, I certainly felt as though he was rolling his eyes at my cheesy comments.
At the dinner table the same day, while we were eating we had a couple minutes of silence, not much was heard apart from the cutlery and my son finally said "I actually wanted to tell you something in the car, but I was afraid you'd get in an accident.." I looked up from my plate and looked at him straight in the eyes... I could see he was thinking about something and all I could think of was "OMG this is it..." he said "Dad.." with a couple seconds of silence "..I'm gay". I looked at him and couldn't help myself from smiling, and I told him "____, you know I love you so much... right?" and I got up and gave him a huge hug. He even started to cry on my shoulder and because of that I couldn't help myself but shed a couple tears. We talked for a bit while finishing our dinner about how I can't emphasize enough that I love him regardless of which gender he loves etc...
After dinner and after he finished his homework we both lay in our pajamas on the sofa, while I was watching the Cooking Channel and he was playing on his iPad. I had my arm around him and he was leaning his head on my chest, and all I could think of was that I'm the happiest father on earth right now.
Thank you all so much for your feedback and suggestions on the last post. All of you are so kind on this subreddit, so many of you sent me PM's explaining how I was a super dad and it honestly brightened my day.
For those curious as to what I will be doing next, I've already started doing some research in LGBT Youth Communities and I think joining one would be a perfect start to helping my son develop into the person he has the potential to being.
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How ironic the one phrase I use as a joke around our mutual circle bites me in the ass this time around. Sometimes in life, all you can do is look at it. Now that you're gone, all I CAN do is look at it.
Dinner with a group of friends that ive known since high school but I just felt alone the whole time. I don't know what it is but this is the first time I've felt this way with this way before. Could it be I've grown away from them as I haven't seen them much in the past year or could it also be there just no common interest anymore. Time to figure this shit out.
You tell me you are still with her, not because you still love her but because you are afraid to start over. Even though she cheated, won't introduce you to her parents after 4 years and won't even friend you on FB. The drunker you get, the more shit gets said. You also tell me that if you knew there was someone out there that wanted you, you would drop her in a heartbeat.
Were you just venting or hinting? I will not make a move as long as you are still with her. If you want something with me, figure your shit out. I am tired of our drunk flirting.
A girl who I asked out two years ago but didn't end up working out but we became good friends, is now somehow in a relationship with a real close buddy of mine going to school in LA now who used to live in Vancouver. She's pretty much the kind of girl who makes lots of friends with benefits, no serious relationships, so before she left for LA I told her that she would definitely find one in LA, she denied it.
She starts sending me suggestive snapchats of her and my buddy together and cuddling and kissing and making out and shit, at least 5 snaps a day.
Yesterday she sent a photo of her legs in my buddy's bath tub having a bubble bath, then she sends another one today of the same thing asking if I'm jealous. I shoot her a message asking her what she's doing, asking her to stop, she doesn't reply and sends another snapchat of the same thing saying "too bad you can't have this".
Mind you, she's been sending these in the evening, and in the evening most of the time I'm with my gf, and we've actually viewed all of the snaps she's sent to me together. Not only did my gf get pretty pissed, now I find out that this supposed female friend of mine has been spreading rumours behind my back about how the only reason I'm with my gf right now is because she rejected me back when I asked her out.
I blocked her from every social media network I'm connected with her on. Get a message from my buddy asking wtf is wrong with me, basically whatever I say to him he's completely oblivious, and he said that my female friend was "flaming pissed".
This is what happens when guys think with their dicks and not their heads.
__________________ [13-03, 11:25] MG1 when you hit the brakes, it shoots cum at pedestrian - bukkake
[12-03, 19:06] meme405 That e30 is so mexiflushed I thought we were in albuquerque
[12-03, 23:03] rb when i see a modded element. I have nothing but respect. either the parents kicked him out or the guy is killing hookers in the back
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